Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Does submitting to your husband mean to agree with everything he says? No, it means to respect and honor him, even when you don't agree with him.
Scenerio I :
After cutting your long hair, your husband told you that he would prefer it long. How do you react?
A. You didn't care for his opinion. It is your hair. you are the one who has to take care of it.
B. You value his opinion, because he is the one who has to look at you. You realize that it is not that much trouble to put up your hair everyday, if that pleases your hubby.
Scenerio II:
Your friend have extended dinner invitations to your family. The problem is your spouse doesn't like the socialization. What do you do?
A. Accept the invitation without talking it over with your spouse.
B. Knowing that your hubby doesn't like to be entertained or be the entertainer, you decline and explain to your hostess why you can't come.
How did you do? Are you honoring and respecting your spouse? I have learned that to be an effective witness to Prince Charming, this is the one area I must give 100%.
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"If two people agree on everything, one of them is not needed". Thought that was so funny. He made us in HIS image, male and female, woman was made from man's side, not from his head to RULE over her like a dictator, not from his foot to walk over her, but from his side to walk through this life together.
Renee
Loved your WFW. Beautiful photo!
Blessings to you, sweet friend.
21Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another.
22 -24Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands.
25 -28Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ's love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They're really doing themselves a favor—since they're already "one" in marriage.
29 -33No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That's how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become "one flesh." This is a huge mystery, and I don't pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband.
In the days when those passages were written, they were revolutionary because women were property and marriages were arranged. Women did not have a voice or any rights, so telling men to love and cherish them was radical.
As to your questions, my answer to #1 would be C: If he likes my hair long, I suggest he attend cosmetology school so that he can help me take care of and style it every day. That way we can both be happy and comfortable. If he like looking at it so much, he can invest some time in helping maintain it.
My answer to #2, my answer is also C: If I want to attend the event and my husband doesn't, it's not a problem. He can go do something with his friends or stay home and watch a sports event or the History Channel, both of which he loves to do. Why should I have to stay home and give up spending time with my friends just because we have different outlooks on what constitutes fun? That's ridiculous. Just because you're married doesn't mean you have to spend every waking moment together. I did not cease being an independent, intelligent, capable woman just because I got married. Part of loving and caring for each other is acknowledging, appreciating, and celebrating our diversity. I am not the least bit uncomfortable attending social events alone, i.e., sans date. Women who are totally dependent upon their husbands for all of their social interactions become boring and sheltered -- and are the women who suffer terribly should the marriage come to an end either because the husband predeceases them or they divorce.
I love the wedding pic!